
Every day is a gift for Magnus Alcade-Troebner, 3, whose fight against a rare cancer has taken a hard turn.
Diagnosed with stage four neuroblastoma at the end of last year, the toddler underwent chemotherapy, followed by 12 hours of surgery to remove a tumour - then radiation therapy.
The news was initially good: everything seemed clear - including in Magnus鈥 bone marrow where the cancer had spread.
But the family has been left devastated: five new lesions were discovered in Magnus鈥 skull early this month.
Magnus recently lost his hair as a result of treatment and his father Mario cut his own off too.
His parents Diana Troebner and Mario Alcade San Martin have been told Magnus has less than a five per cent chance of survival and Magnus鈥 care now includes palliative care.
鈥淚鈥檓 taking videos and photos very consciously now. Sometimes I just record his voice,鈥 mum Diana told the Herald, her voice breaking.
鈥淚 feel terrible doing that because I assume that he鈥檚 not going to be with us very soon.鈥
Magnus Alcade-Troebner, 3, has rare cancer and his care now includes palliative care. Photo / Supplied
Troebner and Alcade San Martin welcomed a baby daughter in April - a sibling Magnus has embraced wholeheartedly.
Troebner speaks about her son鈥檚 love for his little sister Aurora and how difficult it can be to watch them play together.
鈥淚 want him to grow up with his sister. He鈥檚 such an amazing big brother鈥 she said.
The family has spent the last few months packing up and flying to Christchurch every few weeks for Magnus鈥 treatment.
"I say 鈥榮weetie, I wish for you to die happy and healthy when you鈥檙e very old and wrinkly鈥. That鈥檚 my wish for him."
- Magnus' mother, Diana Troebner
Neither parent wants to stay home in Wellington during the appointments in case the situation changes suddenly, Troebner said.
Ahead of his hospital days, Magnus gets upset, Troebner said.
鈥淗e says: 鈥極h, I don鈥檛 want to go there. It makes me feel wobbly and yucky鈥. And when we鈥檙e there, he鈥檚 already asking: 鈥榃hen are we going home鈥?
鈥淥bviously as a parent you never want to give up,鈥 she said.
鈥淲e, as parents, need to see how much more he can take. It鈥檚 just an impossible decision because you want to battle and you want to fight for him, but we also need to find a moment in time when we know that it鈥檚 enough.鈥
Magnus, 3, has embraced big-brother life since sister Aurora was born five months ago. Photo / Supplied
If the family decides to travel overseas in search of other treatments, it will most likely be to Barcelona.
A was set up a year ago to help pay for any treatment and costs incurred by the family - and it has raised more than $111,000.
鈥淵ou need to pay up front so that鈥檚 why we鈥檙e fundraising for it - to be able to respond quickly. Or if we decide to radiate the spots in his skull, we would need to travel overseas to do that.鈥
For now, the couple鈥檚 goal is to make Magnus鈥 dreams come true - from going to the beach, seeing a digger, going to the zoo and riding a tractor.
鈥淓very wish he has right now, honestly, if we can make it happen, we鈥檙e making it happen,鈥 she said.
鈥淢aking every day count, making him happy every day and having some amazing time with his sister.鈥
Troebner revealed her son has an understanding of what death means and has innocently asked when his time might be.
鈥淚 say 鈥榮weetie, I wish for you to die happy and healthy when you鈥檙e very old and wrinkly鈥. That鈥檚 my wish for him, obviously - to lead a happy and long life.鈥
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