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'He looked all pale': Woman recalls discovering dead body in her bed

Author
Catherine Hutton,
Publish Date
Wed, 28 May 2025, 9:11pm
Rau Tongia, 33, was found dead on December 20, 2023. A woman is on trial in the High Court at Wellington, where she denies being a party to murder. Photo / Supplied
Rau Tongia, 33, was found dead on December 20, 2023. A woman is on trial in the High Court at Wellington, where she denies being a party to murder. Photo / Supplied

'He looked all pale': Woman recalls discovering dead body in her bed

Author
Catherine Hutton,
Publish Date
Wed, 28 May 2025, 9:11pm

A woman accused of being a party to murder says she鈥檇 never seen a dead body before, but she knew Rau Tongia was gone as soon as she saw him, because he was so pale.

The woman, whose name is suppressed, is on trial in the High Court at Wellington, where she denies being a party to Tongia鈥檚 killing in December 2020.

The woman is charged with abetting, inciting or counselling the killing by allegedly sending Facebook messages to a woman who had a gun, including ones saying 鈥淥rg it鈥 and 鈥淐ome get this c***鈥.

The court heard police believe Shayde Carolyn Weston, who has already been convicted of Tongia鈥檚 murder, used the gun to shoot him in the back as he slept beside the woman now on trial.

The woman鈥檚 lawyer Elizabeth Hall says Weston would have shot Tongia regardless of the messages.

Others in the house also had access to the Facebook account from which the woman is alleged to have sent the messages, something she vehemently denies doing.

Defendant: Placed in a chokehold

In two written statements given to police shortly after Tongia鈥檚 death, which were read to the jury this week, the woman described the shock of discovering Tongia鈥檚 body in her bed and the tumultuous events that night.

The woman told police she鈥檇 met Tongia in Christchurch more than a decade ago. Over the years, they鈥檇 become close friends and had a casual sexual relationship.

She told police what began as drinks to celebrate Tongia鈥檚 first week in a job as a scaffolder, after recently arriving in Wellington, had soured after he鈥檇 seen her and Weston kissing.

Shayde Carolyn Weston has been convicted for the murder of Rau Tongia in December 2020.
Pool Picture supplied via STUFF
Shayde Carolyn Weston has been convicted for the murder of Rau Tongia in December 2020. Pool Picture supplied via STUFF

Angry and upset, Tongia had attacked Weston while she鈥檇 slept.

Tongia and Weston continued to fight and argue on the balcony of the Karori house. Police were called, but left after the woman assured them everything was okay.

In her statement, the woman said Tongia then sustained a head injury after a fight on the driveway against a group that included Weston. He鈥檇 returned to the house complaining of being struck with a hammer or an axe. She鈥檇 tried to stem the bleeding with a pillowcase.

She said Tongia had hurled abuse at her, accusing her of being selfish and not caring about him.

During her interview, the woman told police Tongia was so drunk, he was impossible to reason with. She鈥檇 shut and locked her bedroom door, but Tongia had broken in and got into bed beside her.

He鈥檇 put her in a chokehold, tight enough that she鈥檇 struggled to breathe. He鈥檇 continued to abuse her while also telling her he loved her and said they needed to go to sleep, she said.

Rau Tongia, 33.
Rau Tongia, 33.

Defendant: 鈥楬e looked all pale鈥

In the morning, she said she鈥檇 slid out of bed and gone downstairs, where she and her niece had laughed about the night鈥檚 events. About 20 minutes later, she鈥檇 gone back to bed.

Offering Tongia a drink of water, she鈥檇 realised he was dead.

鈥淚 looked at him and he looked dead. I鈥檝e never seen a dead body before, but he looked all pale and his eyes were slightly open,鈥 she told police, according to the statement.

There was a patch of blood in the bed behind him by his lower back, she鈥檇 told police.

She didn鈥檛 know how it got there, saying she鈥檇 been so 鈥渙ut of it鈥 she鈥檇 heard nothing during the night.

While speaking to police, she鈥檇 noticed specks of blood on her socks, pants and T-shirt - the clothes she鈥檇 slept in. But she didn鈥檛 know how they got there.

She鈥檇 run downstairs, telling her niece and son to check on Tongia. Confirming he was dead, they鈥檇 called emergency services.

As they stood on the driveway while paramedics were inside, her neighbour approached her. The teenage girl said that while everyone was asleep, someone had come up to the house carrying a long firearm and had let off some rounds.

The woman told police Tongia had only arrived in Wellington shortly before his death. In that time, the only people he鈥檇 had a problem with were a neighbour, whom he鈥檇 knocked out during a domestic dispute with his partner, and Weston, who鈥檇 he鈥檇 only met the night she鈥檇 fatally shot him.

Facebook messages: 鈥楾hat wasn鈥檛 me.鈥

Three months later, in March 2021, the woman gave a video interview to police, which was played to the jury.

During that interview, the police officer showed the woman Facebook messages, which police allege she wrote shortly before Tongia was shot.

鈥淢y bro attacked Shayde while she was asleep. F peanut. Now he鈥檚 attacking me.鈥

The messages continued, 鈥淚鈥檒l f kill him. Yes org.鈥

Asked by the person receiving the messages whose she鈥檚 talking about, the woman allegedly replied saying: 鈥淐ome get this c***.鈥

Police say that while more than one device in the house was logged on to the Facebook account in question, it was the woman who wrote the messages - something she vehemently denied in the police interview.

鈥淚 didn鈥檛 write that. I can鈥檛 even write like that drunk. I was f off my face,鈥 she told police.

Questioned further during the interview, she said 鈥渢hat wasn鈥檛 me. Look, it honestly wasn鈥檛. I did not write those messages. No f way. Nah. If it was from my phone, well, then someone鈥檚 written those. Are you trying to implicate me?鈥 she asks the police officer.

Police say the woman sent the messages while upset and frustrated at the way Tongia had treated her that night.

But towards the end of the interview, the woman makes it clear she鈥檚 unhappy at the suggestion she played any part in Tongia鈥檚 death.

鈥淥h f*** off I did. No. F*** off I did. 鈥楥ause this is actually bullshit. Yous [sic] are f stupid if that鈥檚 what you f think. F*** this. F get me down here and f talk shit and then tell me that I played a part in f shooting my f friend.鈥

The Crown has now finished its case in the jury trial, which is now in its third week before Justice Paul Radich.

Catherine Hutton is an Open Justice reporter, based in Wellington. She has worked as a journalist for 20 years, including at the Waikato Times and RNZ. Most recently she was working as a media adviser at the Ministry of Justice.

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